The Truth About Nightlife

I was a bottle girl for alittle over a year, 1 yr & 2 months to be exact. Within that short time, I was exposed to a lot of things, including things people would deem as “opportunities.” I’ve always been a hustler so nightlife seemed like the perfect grind for me. I was able to look good + make more money than I had ever made before.

I would pray and ask God for good money on the slow days and thank Him when I made it because I believed He was blessing me. It was simple, I would go to work, make money, and go home. I never considered myself easily influenced or compromised as a believer.

For that year & 2 months, I was blind and didn’t know, but God began to open my eyes. In the midst of it, it was hard to see what God was truly saying because all I seen was money. All I seen was Him “blessing me.” Months leading up to me leaving I kept saying “I’m over working here, this isn’t fun anymore.” The “blessings” of easy money? Stopped.

I was at a place where I wasn’t making money AND it wasn’t fun anymore. Everything started to fall apart, but I still didn’t leave right away. “Maybe it’ll get better.” “Well, where else am I going to make this kind of money?” I didn’t realize that I began to make excuses where God was trying to get my attention.

The more consistent I became with reading my Bible, the more my spirit started to shift and align with God. I didn’t really have words for it at the time, but I just knew I felt something. I started to question things going on around me and it’s like my eyes were opened. I started to feel uncomfortable & irritated in atmospheres that I once thrived in.

Once I finally left, I never went back to nightlife. God didn’t just expose my environment, He showed me it is nightlife as a whole. God truly covered me while working as a bottle girl. Working in a club or bar is more dangerous than I really understood.

I want to tell you the truth. Nightlife is full of deception, greed, self-righteousness, lust, perversion, control, manipulation, and more which is why I also stopped going out. It’s such a dangerous cycle that goes beyond “making good money.”

I'm not gonna lie to you, working in those environments easily tainted my discernment. I started to sugarcoat and make excuses for people and things around me because we were "just gettin money." As simple as it sounds, it's not that simple at all. God really protected me on more than one level. I believe a lot of it came from the fervent prayers of my aunt.

Let me give you a real life example. While I was working in nightlife, I was introduced to a professional athlete who began to request me as a server. I didn't think much of it because I didn't do any extra flirting nor showed interest. I simply served his table and did my job. My first time serving him, I made a $1,000 cash tip in less than 2 hours.

Immediately after, I was invited to a private event. There were going to be other people there and I was able to bring a friend. All I had to do was show up and I would get a couple thousand more. Easy, right? At the time, I had credit card balances, a car note, bills, and I needed a new laptop for my business. I'm like "BET! OKAY GOD!!!" 🥴

As simple as it sounded, there was something inside of me that was partly hesitant and I do mean only partly lol. During this time, I was with my boyfriend I had been with for years and I told him about the invitation. I was nervous because I knew there was a possibility that it wouldn't fly, but I was honest anyways. As good and simple as it sounded, he was not with it. This was where he drew the line.

I respected him and didn't go out, but let me tell you.... I had the BIGGEST ATTITUDE. I thought this man was trippin, like why couldn't he just let me rock out, get a quick bag without being on any weird stuff and come back home!? Did he not trust me!? Why he stoppin my bag!!?

I just knew this man "blew my opportunity." Not long after, I was requested by the same person. Want to know what's crazy? The same day, at the same time, I was being tested for COVID and my results came back positive. This was when the 14 day isolation was in effect so I actually had to stay home and couldn't go into work. Let me tell y'all, I missed out on some money that day. We had a 20% gratuity add on + tips. His bill from that night was over $7,000. You do the math. I literally felt robbed. How did this happen the exact same day? All I kept saying was "what God has for me will be for me 😭" so that I could feel better 😂😂😂

After this, I never crossed paths with him again. Why am I telling you this? Because I want you to see how faded my discernment was. At the time, I thought this was an "opportunity" and that's how it's portrayed. I thought it was "simple" and that is how it starts. Looking back, I THANK God I was never in those rooms or put in certain positions. That money was a bribe, but I didn't see the truth back then.

It's not "just money." It never is. The kingdom of darkness has an agenda whether people realize it or not. All money isn't wicked, but in nightlife it's dangerous. It's easy to say "that could never be me," but don't get ahead of yourself. The most solid people can be deceived and fold when in environments like that. There is grooming that takes place. It starts simple, but all people are doing is checking your temperature.

No matter what one may think, working in nightlife taints your vision and is full of deception. There begins to be too many grey areas where it is really black or white. Reading my Bible helped me see that I couldn't keep dancing with the devil. Did God still cover me while I was working there? Yes. Was I still deceived? Yes. Did I know it then? No.

I pray girls and women break away from the demonic cycle of working in nightlife. There are many instances where women work, make money, and go home, but there are also many instances where women are pulled in deeper. It's "just making money" until someone is sexually assaulted, physically harmed, connected with the wrong person, etc. then the heads turn and no one sees anything.

Don't get me wrong, it was a great time before it was time to go. But is it worth it? Absolutely not. You really don't know what deck of cards you'll be dealt and that is way too risky to play with. God loved me too much to leave me where I was and He loves you too much to leave you there as well. Whether you are working in nightlife and have experienced great trauma or you're working in nightlife and love it, I am praying that God meets you and pulls you out.

Matthew 18:11-13 ♥️