Sexual Sin Fuels The Devil

Many of us have been conditioned to think that “sex is just sex.” We’re conditioned to think that sex is a weapon, an advantage, a cure, entertainment, no big deal, etc. We see it in movies and shows, and hear it proudly bragged about in songs. Sex is glorified. Sex is just sex… but what if I told you it’s not? I shared a few months ago why I stopped having sex before marriage which is available under the “Posts” tab. However, this post is to shed some light on some things spiritually attached to having sex.

You know how the water starts shallow and gets deeper at the beach or a lake? Near the shore, it’s safe and fun because it’s low risk. But the further away from the shore, the deeper the water gets. There begins to be warning signs, lights, ropes, etc. because the risk of drowning or being in danger is much higher. This is the same concept with sex and the spirit of perversion. It’s never “just sex” for anybody. The shallow end may seem fun, but you will eventually end up in the deep end if you continue. Pornography, masturbation, having sex, having constant dreams of sex, and constantly thinking about sex are some of the ways the spirit of perversion is invited in and fed. Sexual dreams and thoughts may seem innocent or uncontrollable, but don't be fooled.

Everyone starts off at the shore, but some people are thrown into the water too soon. If you were raped, molested, or sexually exposed then it's likely you’re at a higher risk factor for the spirit of perversion. If that is the case for you, please do not bottle it up or push it to the back of your mind. You never know what is stemming from the trauma. Something 15 years ago could be causing you pain, confusion, and terror in your life today. You might be wondering why you’re always dreaming of sex, why you always have the uncontrollable urge, why you’re attracted to the same sex, and more. Start by asking God about the spirit of perversion in your life. Without dealing with these things head on, they can really turn into something greater. Do not leave these areas of life unattended. It’s important to ask God to show you who you can trust as an outlet, where can you go for deliverance, who you can pray with, what church you should be in, etc. Don’t trust everyone or everything you see because they mention God. Seek God first and exercise discernment. The last thing I want to encourage you all to do is fall into the hands of someone who will mishandle or take advantage of your vulnerability. As we know, everyone is not on the Lord's side.

1 John 4 NKJV Do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets have gone out into the world.

About 3 years ago, someone spoke about how they had been apart of child to child molestation during their childhood years. The outside of me remained poised, but my emotions were literally all over the place. Part of me wanted to hug the person and tell them how it happened to me too, while another part of me wanted to cry and crawl under a rock. For a long time, I thought that this was normal and wasn’t a big deal. For years, I didn’t mention it to anyone and kept it to myself. I convinced myself it didn’t matter and was too embarrassed to find out of it really did. Child to child molestation is a thing and it’s not just “kids being kids.” Of course children are naturally curious, but there’s a thin line between curiosity and pattern. As an adult looking back, I was so ashamed and embarrassed, but hearing that person share ignited something in me that day. I realized I was not over what happened and I couldn’t just get over it by not talking about it. It took some time but I was able to acknowledge the fact that this happened. Not just to myself, but also with God and another person. God really does love us. I’ll never forget how perfectly He set the conversation up. Releasing the words from my lips was hard, but I did it. It felt like a burden was lifted that day and I was finally able to exhale after holding my breath for years. I want you to consider what feels like it has you in a chokehold and pray about releasing it. It might take some time, but your voice is a weapon! The enemy knows that which is why he tries his best to keep you silent.

Once I stopped having sex, I started having more sexual dreams and thoughts. I’m spiritually stronger at this point so I’m assuming the devil is just being annoying. So I’m dismissing him, redirecting my thoughts towards God, and moving along. One day a family friend was sharing some things God had showed her. She said “God didn’t tell me what it is, but He said there’s something you need to take care of because it’s starting to fester. It’s something from your childhood.” I could’ve melted right there because there was no way she could’ve possibly known or assumed anything on her own. God was literally showing up for me through her. He let me know He seen me, and advised that was I was doing was not going to work. The Holy Spirit is really our helper because guess who started seeing information about spirit spouses and the spirit of perversion without looking for it? 😌 The enemy was workin, but God made sure I wasn't blind to what was going on.

I went back to the person who I’d originally shared with years ago and was basically like "Look I don’t understand, I already stopped having sex." She explained to me how having sex was satisfying that open door. See, as long as we’re sinning, the devil is pleased. We make his job easier most of the time. She said since I was no longer having sex, the devil had to find a new outlet to attack me through. In this case, it was my mind and through my dreams. Having highly perverted thoughts and dreams does not mean go have unmarried sex. I know it may naturally make sense, but it's actually a trap. A perverted mind is the enemy’s playground. This is why we need to be careful what we're consuming and making sure our minds aren't idle. It’s clear the enemy was tryna get me to fold, but I didn’t. Instead, I kept asking God to help me and was open to what He was showing me. I currently go to a prophetic church where deliverance takes place. Of course in the midst of everything going on, there was a member of the church who called forth anyone who was struggling with torment from the enemy in their mind and dreams. Initially, I stayed in my seat. Why? I don't know. Sometimes we psych ourselves out like "Well, he didn't mention this, this, and this so he's not talking to me."Sometimes it's denial and second guessing so we have to be careful. Thankfully the Holy Spirit kept tugging at me and I went up for prayer. The person who prayed for me was actually one of the deliverance ministers so I'd like believe it it worked out as it was supposed to.

Psalm 16:8 NKJV I keep my eyes always on the Lord. With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken.

The reason I mention this is because sometimes our breakthrough is connected to someone else's testimony. This isn't my favorite thing to talk about, but it's necessary. I don't mention it because sex was my outlet, I mention it to show how I was feeding the spirit of perversion and what happened when I stopped. When things start going wrong or get worse, it's easy to go back to the old things, but we have to fight our way through. I remember how I felt in the midst of everything before I gave it to God... dirty, embarrassed, and confused. Could I have gone to counseling, sure, but God is the ultimate counselor. He is our provider. He is our healer. God will lead you to resources and people, but don't neglect the source. God doesn't want to just bless us, He wants to free us from spiritual bondage. Sex is not a healthy outlet and can do more harm than good. If you have not handled sexual trauma, you are fueling it through sin. You do not have to suffer, nor do you deserve to.

There are steps towards releasing the spirit of perversion from your life and it may take time, but don’t leave the matter alone until it’s settled. Reach out to God and keep your eyes fixed on Him. The devil doesn’t want you set free so he will try to disrupt in any way possible. He’ll try to keep you muzzled with silence, shame, embarrassment, and anxiety about the things that may have happened to you but it’s all apart of his schemes. Things like this can really affect us more greater than we think. It can navigate us away from healthy relationships, put unhealthy barriers in place, and damage our identity in Christ to name a few. Just because we may push something to the back our minds doesn’t mean the enemy does. Do not believe his lies. You are not alone and you do not have to suffer in silence.

Psalm 34:18 NIV The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

A song for anyone who feels alone - https://youtu.be/8OlMGnPUAdw

Below are a few things I did that helped me break the spirit of perversion off of my life:

1. Shared with someone I trust. Sometimes we just need to get it out.

2. Talked to God about it

3. Repented and forgave

4. Received deliverance and prayer

5. Fasted for it to be broken off of me

6. Stayed in God's face and kept bringing it to God

7. Stopped sexual sin and didn't revert back to it

Not having sex before marriage isn’t a mean rule or religious matter. A lot of people look at the Bible as a rulebook, but God doesn’t tell us things for no reason. He’s really lookin out for us. When we do things out of line with the word of God, we’re fueling the devil. We’re leaving the doors and windows open for the enemy to have his way in our lives and potentially generational. I’m not here to throw the Bible at anyone because at this point we know sex before marriage is not biblically correct if you identify as a believer and follower of Jesus Christ. A lot of people want the scripture for proof, but don’t want to follow the word. Take what I have mentioned in this post to God. Ask Him to expose sexual sin and perversion in your life and stay open to what He shows you, especially if your suffering stems from sexual trauma.